I need mom friends. Not just any mom friends, but ones that have a kid the same age as mine and live in my neighborhood. Just about the only thing I need more than a CAALMF (cool, age-appropriate, local mom friend) is game to pick one up.

I’ve had my eye on this CAALMF at my kid’s daycare for months. (OK, to be honest, a year.) We see each other maybe once every other week, and it’s always a quick and friendly, “Hello, how are you,” or a shared smile of exasperation as we wrestle our kiddos into coats or negotiate them down the steps of the daycare building.

Occasionally, we’ll have more than a 30-second conversation, and it goes well. So well that if there was a dating app for mom friends — now there’s an idea! — I think we’d be an ideal match. She seems cool, nice, and funny, and on the same end of the mom-style spectrum (laid back). Did I mention she lives nearby and our kids are only a few months apart in age?

So what’s the problem? Well, until literally two minutes ago, I didn’t know my CAALMF’s name. With some savvy research skills — thank you, expensive journalism degree — I figured it out. Then, of course, I Googled her and read her LinkedIn profile. I may have even searched to find out what type of home she lives in. (Stop judging me. You would do that too, right?) Turns out, my CAALMF is a career-orientated lady like me, and based on the year she graduated from college, we’re nearly the same age! Can you hear the friendship bells ringing?

So, I guess it’s time to woman up. With you all as my witness, the next time I see my CAALMF and we can talk for more than 30 seconds, I’m going to suggest we get together. I’m not sure if I’m going to go the kid play date route, which seems safe, or suggest a girls date or maybe get babysitters and go on a double date with the husbands. I just hope it goes well.

AND, I really hope she either doesn’t read this article or has a good sense of humor. Otherwise, we might have to change daycares!